How to deal with a controlling husband?

I love my husband, we have two beautiful girls together 4 and 2. We have been married for 5 years now. However, It seems that over these few years he has developed into a controlling man. He hates if I work a half hour later than usual and he accuses me of cheating on him constantly ( I would never!) He makes me feel like I have to rush home and report to him immediately. I went Christmas shopping this year with my grandmother, I never get to see her, and he was mad because I left at 8:00 in the morning and got home around 7:00 that night, ("there's no reason you had to be gone all day long...") He didn't even have to watch our girls that day, I asked his mother to babysit! He is laid off right now so I just chalk it up as he had too much time on his hands, but it is getting worse. I never see my mother either and she lives about fifteen miles away. If I stop on my way home from work to see her he gets mad, so I stopped doing that. I wanted to go to my mothers in the evening on Christmas, we fought about this for the past two weeks. Finally I told him that i was going and that he didn't have to go if he didn't want to. This was the first time I put my foot down and said that. For Christmas, I cooked dinner and invited his family over, they live next door, we ate early so that we could go to my mothers for dinner in the evening. My mother is a chef and always has to work the holidays except Christmas so it was important to me to have dinner with her on an actual holiday. My girls might see her once a month or so if we are lucky! After we ate he pouted in the living room, didn't talk to anyone and just texted his buddy about how much "fun" he was having. It was quite embarring, have you ever seen a grown man pout? Right after the girls opened their gifts he went outside and started the truck, I knew it was my hint that it was time to go. I got the girls ready and ped out hugs and we left. He is very nice to me in front of people but will normally give me attitude when we get into the vehicle to leave and then we bicker all the way home each time we go somewhere or I just won't speak. This time he didn't speak at all. The next morning I spent in tears because of his childish actions. He tried to argue with me about the night before, and gave me a guilt trip that he only saw his mother for an hour. Did I mention that they live next door, he's over there right now... I know this all sound childish, but I am getting to the end of my rope here. This is only a sliver of the things that go on. I was hoping that someone might be able to shed some light on how to deal with this and what to do...